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November 11 2025

Mediumship and Money – The Ethics of Charging for Spiritual Work

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Mediumship and money – the ethics of charging for spiritual work by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

If there’s one topic that divides both mediums and the public, it’s money.
Every time a medium sets a fee, someone somewhere says, “But if it’s a gift, you shouldn’t charge.”
And every time a scandal breaks, the first accusation isn’t about evidence — it’s about greed.

So let’s talk honestly about it. Because unless we can have a grown-up conversation about the economics of spiritual service, the industry will always sit under a cloud of suspicion.

The Old Taboo

In the early Spiritualist movement, charging was frowned upon. Mediums worked for the church or the circle; donations were optional.
But even then, someone still paid the rent for the hall, the light for the lamp, the food for the medium. The idea that spirituality and money can’t coexist was never practical — it was sentimental.

A gift still requires stewardship. Being gifted doesn’t mean being unpaid.

Money Isn’t the Problem — Motivation Is

There’s nothing unethical about compensation for time, skill, and preparation.
The issue arises when money replaces meaning.

If your priority shifts from “How can I serve?” to “How much can I earn?” the vibration of the work changes instantly.
Spirit doesn’t mind payment; it minds exploitation.

The Cost of Integrity

A professional reading involves time, emotional labour, and years of training.
Mediums pay for development circles, travel, insurance, equipment, and often counselling or supervision.

When you pay a medium, you’re not buying a message — you’re compensating the craft that allows the message to happen safely.

Ethical payment honours both worlds: the earthly need for balance and the spiritual need for respect.

The Line Between Fair Fee and Exploitation

Ethics begin where transparency begins. A medium should:

Display clear pricing before booking.

Offer refund or reschedule policies.

Avoid emotional sales tactics (“Spirit says you need another session”).

Never charge escalating fees for “curse removal,” “soul contracts,” or “emergency energy work.”

Once fear or dependency enters the sales pitch, integrity leaves.

Free Isn’t Always Noble

Some mediums refuse payment to appear pure. But that can backfire.
Constantly giving readings for free devalues the work and invites burnout. It also attracts people who don’t take the experience seriously.

Energy exchange — whether financial or charitable — creates balance. Generosity without boundaries eventually becomes resentment.

The healthiest path sits between martyrdom and greed.

The Double Standard

Society happily pays counsellors, clergy, yoga instructors, and holistic therapists.
But pay a medium, and suddenly it’s “selling the dead.”

That hypocrisy stems from misunderstanding. Mediumship is service, not salvation. You’re not paying for contact with the beyond; you’re paying for the time of a living human being who facilitates a deeply emotional process.

No one expects a priest to live on air. Why should a medium?

The Sliding-Scale Solution

Money can exclude those who need comfort most. Ethical practitioners can address this without self-sacrifice:

Offer limited concession slots monthly.

Host donation-based group evenings.

Provide free community demonstrations alongside paid private work.

Balance generosity with sustainability. Spirit supports fairness, not self-impoverishment.

Transparency Builds Trust

Be open about what clients are paying for: your time, your training, your professionalism — not guaranteed results.
Publish disclaimers and boundaries. When clients know exactly what to expect, scepticism softens.

Clarity is the simplest form of protection — for both sides.

Greed, Guilt, and Growth

Some mediums feel guilty charging at all. Others charge so much it borders on predation.
Both extremes spring from insecurity — one fears judgement, the other craves validation.

Healthy confidence says: “My time has value, and I use it ethically.”
When your motivation is service, fair exchange becomes natural, not shameful.

Redefining Prosperity

Money itself is neutral. It amplifies whatever energy you bring to it.
If you work with integrity, payment circulates as gratitude. If you exploit, it corrodes.

Spiritual prosperity isn’t about luxury; it’s about balance — being able to live, give, and continue your work without apology.

Mediumship shouldn’t make anyone rich at the expense of others, but it shouldn’t impoverish those who dedicate their lives to it either.

Mediumship and Money – Final Thoughts

Mediumship is a bridge between two worlds — and every bridge needs maintenance.
Charging ethically isn’t corruption; it’s sustainability.

The question isn’t “Should mediums charge?”
It’s “What are they charging for — and why?”

When money serves the message, the energy stays pure.
When the message serves the money, everything collapses.

Let your fee reflect your integrity, not your insecurity. That’s how we keep spiritual work sacred and sustainable at the same time.

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Mediumship and Money – The Ethics of Charging for Spiritual Work

November 10 2025

Mediumship, Trauma, and the Boundaries of Healing – Where Psychic Work Ends and Therapy Begins

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Mediumship, trauma, and the boundaries of healing – where psychic work ends and therapy begins by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Mediumship brings comfort; therapy brings recovery. They complement each other beautifully — but they are not the same.
Too often, mediums cross that invisible line and start doing a job that belongs to counsellors and clinicians. It’s not always intentional; most mean well. Yet good intentions don’t erase ethical boundaries.

I know this world from both sides. Before dedicating my life to spiritual communication, I trained and worked as a psychotherapist. That background gave me a deep respect for what therapy can do — and a clear awareness of where mediumship must stop.

The Seduction of Healing Power

When a client sits before you in tears, you want to help. You want to fix the grief, ease the pain, fill the silence.
But mediumship isn’t a cure; it’s a moment — a spark of evidence that love survives death. It opens a door, but it doesn’t replace the slow work of processing trauma.

Some mediums, intoxicated by gratitude and emotion, start believing they can “heal” psychological wounds through messages alone.
That’s dangerous. Comfort is not therapy. It’s a bridge toward healing, not the destination itself.

The Difference Between Consolation and Counselling

A reading might provide closure; counselling teaches coping.
Mediumship reminds you that you’re loved; therapy helps you rebuild when you feel unlovable.
One connects you to Spirit; the other reconnects you to life.

A responsible medium knows when to suggest professional support.
Saying “I think speaking with a counsellor could help you integrate this” isn’t a failure — it’s integrity.

Emotional Transfer and the Weight of Grief

Every medium has felt it: that heaviness when a sitter’s grief lands in your chest. It’s empathy, but if you don’t manage it, it becomes emotional transfer — carrying trauma that isn’t yours.
That’s how burnout happens.

Therapists are trained to discharge that energy through supervision; mediums rarely are.
We need similar systems of after-care: debriefing, grounding, and boundaries. Spirit doesn’t ask us to drown in compassion; it asks us to channel it safely.

The False Promise of Instant Healing

Social media is full of phrases like “a reading will heal your heart” or “Spirit will remove your trauma.”
That’s marketing, not truth.

A powerful message can begin healing, yes — but lasting emotional recovery takes time, reflection, and sometimes professional therapy.
To promise otherwise exploits hope. Ethical mediums offer reassurance, not miracles.

When Mediums Become Therapists Without Training

Some practitioners unknowingly cross into psychotherapy territory:

analysing attachment patterns,

diagnosing depression or anxiety,

giving advice about medication or mental health.

That isn’t mediumship; it’s malpractice.
We are interpreters of spiritual evidence, not clinicians.
If a sitter is struggling psychologically, referring them to appropriate help is the most spiritual act you can perform.

Trauma-Informed Mediumship

Every medium who works with the bereaved should have basic trauma awareness:

Language: avoid re-traumatising phrasing like “They had to die for a reason.”

Consent: always ask permission before touching or holding a client.

Pacing: stop if emotion overwhelms; you’re not there to force release.

After-care: recommend grounding techniques or quiet time post-reading.

A trauma-informed approach protects both sitter and medium — and demonstrates professionalism to sceptics who assume we’re careless.

The Ego Trap of the ‘Healer’

Ego doesn’t just show up as fame; it also hides behind compassion.
Some mediums enjoy being the rescuer. They feel powerful when clients depend on them for emotional survival.
But dependence is not healing. It’s repetition of trauma dynamics.

Real empowerment means teaching the client they don’t need you.
If a medium truly serves Spirit, their goal is independence, not attachment.

Collaboration, Not Competition

Imagine a world where mediums and therapists work together.
Where a bereaved client receives a reading for comfort, then follows up with a trauma counsellor for integration.
No rivalry, no defensiveness — just complementary care.

We don’t lose authority by sharing the load; we gain credibility.

Knowing When to Say ‘No’

Sometimes the most ethical reading is the one you don’t give.
If a person is visibly unstable, intoxicated, or in the early stages of acute trauma, mediumship can do more harm than good.
It’s perfectly acceptable to say, “I think it’s too soon for a reading. Let’s revisit this later.”

Spirit doesn’t demand performance; it demands discernment.

Bringing the Two Worlds Together Responsibly

Mediumship is about connection. Therapy is about integration.
One reminds you that love continues; the other helps you live again after loss.
Used responsibly, they form a complete circle of healing.

The future of ethical spiritual practice lies in collaboration with psychology, not avoidance of it.
The more we understand the human mind, the cleaner the spiritual message becomes.

Mediumship, Trauma, and the Boundaries of Healing – Final Thoughts

Mediums are not therapists — and that’s okay.
We are witnesses to love’s continuity, not architects of recovery.

But we can work alongside the professionals who are.
When we respect the boundaries between spiritual and psychological care, everyone benefits: the sitter, the medium, and the reputation of our field.

True healing happens when Spirit and science, empathy and expertise, all sit at the same table — each doing the work they were designed to do.

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Mediumship, Trauma, and the Boundaries of Healing

November 9 2025

Science, Sceptics, and the Spirit World – Why We Need Each Other More Than We Think

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Science, sceptics, and the spirit world – why we need each other more than we think by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Mediumship and science have circled each other for more than a century, like two sides of the same mystery that refuse to shake hands.
Sceptics accuse mediums of delusion; mediums accuse sceptics of arrogance.
Both are partly right — and both are missing something vital.

If the goal is truth, not territory, then it’s time for a ceasefire.
Because the future of credible mediumship may depend on our willingness to invite science to the séance table.

We’ve Been Fighting the Wrong Battle

For generations, Spiritualists treated sceptics as enemies. The narrative was simple: “They want to destroy faith.”
But in reality, most researchers and rationalists simply want evidence that stands up to scrutiny.

That’s not persecution; that’s due diligence.
A scientist’s scepticism isn’t hostility — it’s curiosity with discipline. It asks the questions we sometimes avoid.

The real enemy of mediumship isn’t science; it’s dishonesty.

Science Without Spirit Is Cold — Spirit Without Science Is Chaos

Science gives us measurement, repeatability, and reason. Spirit gives us meaning, emotion, and connection.
Without science, belief becomes superstition.
Without spirit, science becomes mechanism.

Both are incomplete without the other. The universe itself is evidence that physics and consciousness are intertwined; we just haven’t learned to read the code yet.

Mediumship, when done ethically, is the bridge between those languages.

The Fear of Testing

Many mediums shy away from scientific study. They fear failure, exposure, or reductionism — as though a laboratory could “trap” Spirit in data.

But if our experiences are genuine, they can withstand examination.
A failed experiment doesn’t disprove Spirit; it highlights variables we don’t yet understand. You can only test what ‘comes through’, but with this in mind and easily said, personally, testing I would never swerve. Imagine how much credibility we’d gain if mediums volunteered for transparent testing, recorded their sessions, and worked alongside parapsychologists instead of against them.

The more light we allow in, the fewer shadows sceptics can point to.

The Psychology of Protection

There’s also ego at play. Some mediums secretly rely on mystery for authority. They fear that if science explains the mechanism, the magic will vanish.

But truth doesn’t destroy wonder — it refines it.
Knowing how light refracts doesn’t make a rainbow less beautiful; it makes it more miraculous.

If we truly believe Spirit is real, we shouldn’t fear discovery; we should crave it.

Sceptics Need to Evolve Too

Respect goes both ways. Some sceptics enter the discussion already convinced that all psychic phenomena are fraud. That’s not science; that’s bias.

A real scientist observes without contempt. A true investigator tests with empathy as well as method.
Scepticism should question the data, not insult the experiencer.

When sceptics start listening instead of labelling, and mediums start measuring instead of defending, genuine progress can happen.

The Shared Language of Consciousness

Both camps are exploring the same mystery from opposite directions: what happens to consciousness when the body dies?

Neuroscientists map brain waves during near-death experiences.
Mediums describe communication with minds that no longer occupy bodies.

Maybe those aren’t conflicting claims but parallel research — two paths up the same mountain.
If we’d compare notes instead of throwing stones, we might finally see the summit.

How the Partnership Could Work

Open Demonstrations: Mediums willing to work under controlled, filmed conditions with independent observers.

Data Logging: Standardised forms recording statements, confirmations, and specific evidence.

Blind Readings: Mediums reading for sitters they can’t see or hear, eliminating sensory clues.

Peer Review: Both believers and sceptics analysing outcomes together, publicly.

Transparency benefits everyone. It doesn’t threaten Spirit; it proves sincerity.

Why Scepticism Is Healthy for the Soul

Scepticism keeps faith honest. It trims the overgrowth of fantasy and grounds the work in reality.
Without scepticism, mediumship turns into mythology.
With it, we grow sharper, clearer, and stronger.

Spirit doesn’t need blind belief — it needs informed trust.

The Role of Entertainment

As a Psychic Entertainer, I live on the boundary between art and spirituality.
Entertainment allows the public to experience curiosity safely; science ensures that curiosity isn’t abused.
Both are valid entry points into mystery.

The trick is balance: educate through fascination, not fabrication.

A New Era of Collaboration

Imagine conferences where mediums and neuroscientists share data.
Imagine laboratories that test psychic perception without ridicule.
Imagine television shows that document evidence responsibly instead of exploiting grief.

That’s not fantasy — it’s the next evolution of spiritual research, if we have the courage to work together.

Science, Sceptics, and the Spirit World – Final Thoughts

Mediumship doesn’t need protection from science. It needs partnership with it.
The sceptic’s microscope and the medium’s sensitivity are two tools designed to examine the same truth.

The moment we stop defending our corners and start sharing our findings, both worlds will move closer to understanding the same eternal question: what happens when we die?

Until then, the bravest act a medium can take isn’t to convert the sceptic — it’s to welcome the test.

Because truth doesn’t fear measurement; only falsehood does.

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Science, Sceptics, and the Spirit World

November 8 2025

Rebuilding Trust – How Ethical Mediums Can Heal the Damage Done to the Industry

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Rebuilding trust – how ethical mediums can heal the damage done to the industry by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Mediumship has taken some knocks.
Scandals, sceptics, social-media fakery, and public disappointment have all chipped away at a profession that once offered hope in the darkest corners of grief. The question many people quietly ask now is simple: can it ever recover its credibility?

I believe it can — but only if we rebuild it from the inside out. Not through slogans or PR, but through ethics, education, and evidence.

Admit Where We Went Wrong

The first step in rebuilding trust is brutal honesty.
As a community we must stop pretending every medium is genuine or that Spirit excuses poor conduct. There have been mistakes — some tragic, some trivial, all costly.

We’ve allowed ego, competition, and blind loyalty to cloud discernment. We’ve let fame become validation. Until we acknowledge that publicly, we can’t expect the public to forgive us privately.

Transparency is healing. Denial is rot.

Put Service Back at the Centre

Mediumship began as service — not show business. Its purpose was to comfort the bereaved, not to cultivate followers.

Every demonstration, whether in a church, a theatre, or a live stream, should begin with one question:

“Who am I serving right now — Spirit, or myself?”

If the honest answer is yourself, pause. Reset. Realign.
The simplest way to restore trust is to make every sitting an act of compassion, not competition.

Educate the Public — Properly

People fear what they don’t understand. That fear disappears when they’re taught how genuine mediumship actually works.

Explain the difference between psychic intuition and evidential Spirit communication.
Teach audiences that no contact is guaranteed, that free will exists on both sides, and that real evidence is specific, not generic comfort.

When the public knows what ethical mediumship looks like, they stop tolerating the unethical.

Knowledge protects both sitter and medium.

Raise Professional Standards

We cannot keep operating on good intentions alone. Every serious medium should commit to continual professional development — not just spiritual, but psychological.

Learn about grief responses, trauma language, and emotional regulation. Study scepticism as much as spirituality. Join supervision circles. Record your work for review.

The more we behave like professionals, the less we’ll be dismissed as performers.

Spirit doesn’t need defending from science; it needs practitioners educated enough to speak its language intelligently.

Encourage Peer Review and Mentorship

In the old circles, mediums trained under mentors for years before ever going public. That structure kept integrity intact. We need that back.

Peer review isn’t criticism — it’s calibration. A trusted colleague who questions your evidence is a safeguard, not a threat.
Mentorship keeps talent humble and technique sharp.

If we want the public to trust us again, we must start trusting each other enough to be honest.

Create a Visible Code of Ethics

Imagine if every practising medium displayed a clear, concise Code of Ethics on their website and promotional material:

No guaranteed results.

No exploitation of grief or fear.

No medical, legal, or financial advice.

Full transparency about fees and context.

Respectful language at all times.

That single act would shift public perception overnight. It says, “I am accountable.”

Modernise Without Losing Meaning

Technology isn’t the enemy; misuse is.
Let’s livestream responsibly, record our readings with consent, and use cameras to demonstrate openness — not to chase attention.

When people see ethical conduct paired with modern professionalism, credibility rises. Spirit doesn’t mind cameras; it minds dishonesty.

Celebrate Accuracy, Not Drama

We must retrain audiences — and ourselves — to value precision over performance.

A quiet, evidential message that proves love continues carries more power than any theatrical flourish.
Applause fades; truth endures.

If we start praising accuracy and sincerity, others will follow.

Unite Genuine Practitioners

The era of fragmented egos and rival camps must end. Ethical mediums need to form a united, visible community that stands apart from sensationalism.

Whether that becomes a Professional Council, an Ethical Alliance, or a verified accreditation body, the idea is the same: collective credibility.

When the public sees mediums holding each other to account, trust naturally returns.

My Promise — and the Challenge Ahead

As someone who works both in spiritual and entertainment settings, I see how fragile trust can be. One false claim undoes a hundred honest readings.
That’s why I’ve built my own practice on transparency — no guarantees, no guides, no theatrics, just clear evidence and compassion.

But one person’s ethics aren’t enough. It has to be a movement — a return to integrity across the board.

We can’t change what was, but we can redefine what comes next.

How Ethical Mediums Can Heal the Damage Done to the Industry – Final Thoughts

Mediumship doesn’t need defending; it needs redeeming.

It began as a message of hope: that death is not the end, that love is unbreakable, that communication continues. Somewhere along the way, that message was overshadowed by ego, scepticism, and spectacle.

It’s time to bring it back.

If we build an industry rooted in honesty, education, and empathy, the public will forgive the past. They always do — when they can feel truth.

The Spirit world has never lost faith in us.
Now it’s our turn to earn that faith back.

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How Ethical Mediums Can Heal the Damage Done to the Industry

November 6 2025

The Future of Mediumship – Reclaiming Credibility in the Age of Clicks and Cameras

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The Future of Mediumship – Reclaiming Credibility in the Age of Clicks and Cameras by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Mediumship once belonged to the séance room and the church platform. Today it lives on TikTok, YouTube, and livestreams that reach thousands in a single scroll. That visibility could have been the golden age of spiritual connection — instead, it’s become a crossroads between authenticity and attention.

In this post I want to ask the question too many avoid: can mediumship survive the algorithm?

The Digital Circus

Social media promised connection; it delivered competition.
Instead of quiet development, we now have “Psychic Tok” — a carousel of one-minute messages, “Spirit says stop scrolling” videos, and mass readings disguised as entertainment.

The medium has become the brand, and the Spirit world the backdrop.

Algorithms reward emotion, not evidence. Outrage, tears, and instant gratification outperform nuance and ethics every time. That’s why genuine work — slow, evidential, human — struggles to trend.

Attention Is the New Currency

Clicks now carry more weight than credibility. Some mediums perform live readings several times a day, claiming nonstop downloads from Spirit, yet their content is indistinguishable from lifestyle influencers.

That doesn’t make them all frauds — but it does raise a moral question:

“If you’re constantly performing, when do you listen?”

True mediumship requires silence, rest, and reflection. The nervous system can’t stay receptive if it’s chasing views.

The Rise of the Digital Psychic

Technology has created an army of “digital psychics” who sell readings through chatbots, AI filters, and pre-recorded templates.

It’s convenient, profitable, and completely devoid of empathy.

Spirit communication cannot be automated. Mediumship is about relationship, not data exchange. When an algorithm starts doing “readings,” we’ve reduced the sacred to customer service.

Filters and Fakery

We now live in an age where even evidence can be edited. Some online mediums splice together multiple sessions to make every message appear flawless. Others use emotional music, reaction cuts, and captions that steer the viewer’s response.

The danger is subtle: audiences begin expecting cinematic perfection from live mediumship — forgetting that real communication is imperfect, human, and raw.

A single miss can destroy a medium’s online reputation, so some begin editing reality itself.

That’s not Spirit. That’s PR.

The Lost Art of Development

In the past, mediums spent years sitting in circles, studying ethics, and learning emotional discipline before ever stepping onto a public platform. Now people skip straight from “awakening” to advertising.

Development has been replaced by branding. Reflection replaced by filters.

We’ve traded patience for immediacy — and in doing so, we’ve lost depth.

The Public Is Wiser Than We Think

Despite the chaos, audiences are evolving. They can feel authenticity. They know when something rings true and when it’s performed.

I’ve noticed that people crave realness more than ever. They’re tired of polished perfection. When a genuine moment of Spirit happens — unedited, unforced — it cuts through the noise instantly.

That’s our opportunity: truth still trends when it’s felt.

Technology as Ally, Not Enemy

We don’t need to reject technology; we need to reclaim it.

Use live-streaming to teach, not to show off.
Use cameras to document real demonstrations transparently.
Use social media to explain ethics, grief awareness, and discernment.

The same platforms that cheapen mediumship can also elevate it — if we use them with intention.

Spirit doesn’t fear progress; it asks us to use it wisely.

Evidence Must Evolve Too

In an age of instant playback, we have a chance to make mediumship more verifiable than ever. Recordings, transcripts, and data logging can preserve accuracy.

Imagine a future where mediums archive every demonstration and allow independent review. That’s how we restore credibility — not by hiding in candlelight, but by stepping into the open.

Light, literally and metaphorically, is the best proof of all.

The Human Touch Will Always Win

No matter how advanced technology becomes, no algorithm can replicate the quiet heartbeat of a genuine connection.

When someone receives a message that carries a private detail, a nickname, a shared joke known only to them and their loved one — that’s the moment the noise stops.

That will never be downloadable.

My Vision for the Future

Mediumship must become transparent, educational, and emotionally intelligent.

Transparent – openly filmed demonstrations with clear disclaimers.

Educational – audiences taught how communication works, not mystified.

Emotionally intelligent – mediums trained in trauma awareness and ethical language.

The more professional we become, the less we need to defend ourselves.

If we hold ourselves to those standards, the future of mediumship won’t depend on algorithms; it will depend on integrity.

The Future of Mediumship – Final Thoughts

We can’t go back to candlelit parlours — nor should we. The world has changed, and so must we.

But in the rush to modernise, let’s not forget the core truth: mediumship isn’t about visibility; it’s about validity.

The Spirit world doesn’t need followers — it needs believers in integrity.

Clicks fade. Truth endures. And in the end, the only platform that matters is the bridge between two worlds.

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The Future of Mediumship

November 5 2025

Fake Phenomena and the Psychology of Belief

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Fake phenomena and the psychology of belief – why some mediums convince even themselves by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Mediumship attracts scrutiny, and rightly so. The claim that consciousness survives death is extraordinary, and extraordinary claims demand honesty — not just with the public, but with ourselves.

The uncomfortable truth is that self-deception is far more common in this field than deliberate fraud. Many mediums who appear confident and sincere aren’t conning others; they’re unwittingly caught in the psychology of belief.

If we’re serious about protecting the integrity of our work, we must learn to recognise when faith turns into bias, and when intuition quietly slips into imagination.

The Human Brain Wants Meaning

Our brains are pattern-making machines. They link random details, fill gaps, and search for stories that make emotional sense.
That’s why sitters sometimes “fit” vague statements to their own experiences — and why even experienced mediums can misinterpret subtle impressions.

The mind abhors uncertainty. When we sense a whisper of energy, we naturally want to define it. But if we’re not grounded, our own subconscious will happily supply an answer.

Recognising that impulse isn’t scepticism — it’s professionalism.

Feedback Loops Create False Confidence

Every medium knows the thrill of a sitter nodding enthusiastically. That micro-reaction — the widening eyes, the intake of breath — triggers dopamine and reinforces our sense of accuracy.

Do that hundreds of times and you create a powerful feedback loop: “I’m always right; therefore what I feel must be Spirit.”
Soon, discernment blurs.

Without regular supervision or peer critique, mediums can spend years in that echo chamber, surrounded by affirmation but divorced from objectivity.

Memory Distortion and the ‘Selective Hit’

Human memory is elastic. Sitters remember the hits and forget the misses; mediums do the same.

After a demonstration, we tend to recall the one dazzling detail that landed perfectly — not the ten that didn’t.
Over time, this creates an inflated sense of accuracy and feeds the myth of infallibility.

Keeping detailed records and reviewing them honestly is the only antidote.

Cold Reading vs. Genuine Connection

Cold reading is often misunderstood. It isn’t always malicious trickery; it’s a set of psychological cues anyone can fall into — subtle observation, probability, body language, and emotional inference.

A sincere medium can accidentally employ cold-reading techniques without realising it. The sitter reacts, the medium’s intuition amplifies, and the illusion of communication is born.

Ethical mediums train themselves to spot these traps. They focus on specific, verifiable evidence — names, memories, quirks — rather than safe generalities.

The Subtle Slide from Energy to Imagination

Intuitive work begins with a felt sense — a vibration, an image, a thought that doesn’t seem to originate from oneself.
But imagination sits on the same neural pathways. Under emotional pressure, those signals can merge.

The test is consistency: does the information feel spontaneous, or built? Does it flow naturally, or does it require mental construction?

True mediumship feels received. False perception feels assembled.

Learning that distinction takes years of self-observation and humility.

The Problem of Isolation

Mediums often work alone, without supervision or peer review. Isolation breeds certainty.
When no one challenges you, your inner narrative becomes gospel.

That’s why development circles, mentoring, and constructive scepticism are vital. A trusted colleague who can question you is worth more than a thousand compliments.

Accountability keeps intuition honest.

The Role of Emotion

Emotion is both the fuel and the fog of mediumship. Grief energy opens the heart — but it can also distort perception.

If a medium wants an outcome strongly enough, the subconscious will oblige with imagery and sensation that feel real.
The more compassionate the medium, the greater the risk of emotional contamination.

Grounding before and after readings isn’t ritual; it’s psychological hygiene.

Why Good People Believe Their Own Stories

Cognitive dissonance explains why even ethical mediums double down when challenged.
Admitting error threatens not just their reputation, but their entire worldview. To protect that worldview, the mind reinterprets evidence until it fits.

It’s easier to believe “Spirit didn’t want that information to come through” than “I misread the impression.”

That’s not deceit — that’s human defence. But unchecked, it becomes delusion.

Science, Skepticism, and Spiritual Integrity

Science isn’t the enemy of mediumship; denial is. A truly spiritual medium should welcome research, not fear it.

We can hold faith and reason in the same hand. Understanding psychology doesn’t diminish Spirit — it refines the translator.
The more we understand the human mind, the cleaner the channel becomes.

If Spirit is real, truth can only help it.

The Discipline of Self-Questioning

The most authentic mediums I’ve met all share one trait: self-doubt.

Not crippling insecurity — healthy doubt. The kind that keeps you honest.
After every demonstration, ask:

Did I interpret or receive?

Was that specific or suggestive?

Did I want it to be true, or did it simply arrive?

That inner audit is the difference between mediumship and imagination.

A Call for Conscious Mediumship

The future of this work isn’t about defending belief; it’s about raising consciousness within the craft itself.

We must normalise critical thinking, record-keeping, and peer evaluation.
We must stop mistaking charisma for credibility.
And we must accept that self-correction isn’t scepticism — it’s spiritual maturity.

Mediumship can be both mystical and methodical. One honours Spirit; the other protects truth.

Fake Phenomena and the Psychology of Belief – Final Thoughts

Some mediums fake; more simply mistake.
The only cure for both is awareness.

If you claim to speak for those beyond life, you have a duty to understand the living psychology through which that speech passes.

Spirit deserves translators who know their own minds.
Because until we master the human filter, we’ll never hear the full clarity of the voice that speaks through it.

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Fake Phenomena and the Psychology of Belief

November 4 2025

Mediumship and Accountability – Why the Industry Needs Reform

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Mediumship and Accountability – Why the Industry Needs Reform by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Mediumship has the power to heal. It can turn disbelief into comfort and grief into peace. Yet for all its heart, the psychic industry remains one of the least accountable professions in the modern world.

Anyone can print a set of business cards, start an Instagram account, and call themselves a “psychic medium.” No training, no regulation, no duty of care. If they’re charismatic enough, they’ll find an audience.

And that — right there — is the problem.

The Wild West of the Spirit World

The spiritual industry has exploded. There are brilliant, ethical practitioners out there, but there are also thousands who have never studied ethics, psychology, trauma, or grief support.

Mediumship deals with the most fragile aspect of human life: loss. In any other profession touching grief — counselling, therapy, hospice work — regulation is strict. In ours? None.

When something goes wrong, a sitter has no governing body to complain to, no professional board to contact, no code of practice that carries weight. They can only walk away, hurt and disillusioned.

If a therapist acted unethically, they’d lose their licence. If a medium does, they lose nothing except maybe a follower count.

Spiritualism’s Original Standards Have Been Forgotten

Early Spiritualist churches did have codes of conduct: evidential standards, rules for platform behaviour, guidelines for development. Mediumship was seen as service, not celebrity.

But as mediumship left the church and entered the commercial arena, those checks disappeared. The marketplace replaced mentorship. Popularity replaced proficiency.

Today, someone can attend one weekend workshop and walk out calling themselves a professional.

That’s not progression — that’s dilution.

Why Self-Regulation Isn’t Enough

Mediums often argue that “Spirit regulates us.” That sounds noble, but Spirit doesn’t sign refunds or handle complaints. Human accountability is still required.

Self-regulation works only for those who already care about ethics. The people doing harm are not the ones self-regulating — they’re the ones hiding behind mysticism to avoid it.

If our industry is ever to be trusted again, we need a framework that exists outside belief.

The Case for Professional Standards

I’m not talking about government control of spirituality. I’m talking about a voluntary professional framework — a code that protects both the medium and the public.

Such a framework could include:

Training accreditation – verified study in ethics, bereavement awareness, and psychological understanding.

Disclosure of purpose – stating clearly whether work is evidential, spiritual, or entertainment-based.

Transparent pricing and disclaimers – honest marketing, no false promises.

Complaints procedure – an independent body able to mediate grievances.

Continuing development – regular peer review and mentoring.

That’s not red tape; that’s respect.

How Lack of Accountability Breeds Exploitation

Where there are no boundaries, exploitation follows.

I’ve seen people charged hundreds for “curses lifted,” told their loved ones are trapped, or persuaded to buy repeated sessions for “spiritual maintenance.”

That isn’t mediumship — that’s emotional blackmail dressed in incense.

Each of those stories damages public faith. Every unethical act by one so-called medium makes it harder for the rest of us to be believed.

The Fear of Scrutiny

Some practitioners resist regulation because they fear scrutiny. “Who are you to judge my gift?” they ask.

But accountability isn’t about judging the gift — it’s about safeguarding the client. Regulation doesn’t limit Spirit; it limits harm.

If your work is genuine, you have nothing to fear from transparency.

Learning from Other Professions

Every discipline that deals with emotional well-being has boundaries. Counsellors have supervision. Hypnotherapists have professional associations. Even stage magicians, who don’t claim supernatural power, have ethical codes about honesty and consent.

Mediumship — which claims communication with the afterlife — should be no different.

If we truly believe our work serves the highest good, then we must hold ourselves to the highest standard.

Public Education Is Part of the Reform

Regulation alone won’t fix the problem; education will. The public must learn what to expect from a reading: that no contact can be guaranteed, that genuine mediums do not diagnose, and that real evidence is specific, not vague comfort.

When people understand what ethical mediumship looks like, the unethical quickly stand out.

The Role of Mediums Themselves

Change won’t come from outside; it must come from within.

We, the working mediums, must:

Call out poor practice when we see it.

Mentor newcomers with honesty.

Stop protecting those who exploit clients under the banner of “respect for the gift.”

Spirituality without integrity is theatre. Integrity without courage is silence. We need both.

My Thoughts For The Future

I believe the next generation of mediums should form a Professional Council of Evidential Mediums — a collective body that establishes ethical training, grievance procedures, and a clear code of conduct.

It wouldn’t dictate belief; it would define behaviour. It would make sure the public can trust that anyone using the title “Professional Medium” meets minimum ethical and educational standards.

That’s not control — that’s evolution.

Mediumship and Accountability – Final Thoughts

Mediumship will always divide opinion, and it should — we’re dealing with life’s deepest mysteries. But if we truly want to earn public trust, we must stop hiding behind mystery and start embracing accountability.

Spirit doesn’t fear scrutiny. Truth survives light.

The future of this work depends not on the next viral medium, but on a community brave enough to regulate itself — not because it has to, but because it ought to.

Mediumship deserves credibility. The bereaved deserve protection.
And those of us who love this work deserve an industry we can be proud of.

It’s time we built it.

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Mediumship and Accountability – Why the Industry Needs Reform

November 3 2025

The Truth About Mediumship

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The Truth About Mediumship – A Controversial Perspective from a Working Medium by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Let me say this clearly:
Not everything you see on stage, on television, or online that calls itself mediumship… actually is.

I’ve worked in this field for years — on platforms, in private sittings, and in public demonstration — and I’ve witnessed the full spectrum of mediumship: the genuine, the misguided, the ego- driven, and yes, the fraudulent.

This is not an attack; it’s a truth many working mediums discuss privately but are too polite (or too cautious) to admit publicly.
The truth is — our field is both beautiful and broken.

Too Many Mediums, Not Enough Mediumship

Mediumship today has become a trend, a hashtag, a business model. Social media is flooded with self-proclaimed psychics offering instant readings for likes and follows. Everyone’s “channeling.” Everyone’s “guided.”

The problem is that mediumship isn’t supposed to be trendy — it’s supposed to be sacred.

Mediumship is not content. It’s not performance art or an aesthetic.
It’s supposed to be the emotional, evidential bridge between two worlds — not an ego exercise or a lifestyle brand.

The result is an over-saturated marketplace where real sensitivity gets drowned out by volume and visibility. Some who mean well are genuinely intuitive but lack training, discipline, or understanding. Others simply perform cold reading and call it Spirit.

The public can’t always tell the difference — and that damages everyone, including those who work authentically.

The Ego Problem in the Spirit World

I’ll be blunt: too many mediums think they are the message.

They speak of Spirit with grandeur, as if they’ve been chosen, special, anointed. Some even imply that other mediums are less advanced or not “real.”

Mediumship is not about hierarchy.
The moment a medium believes they’re more important than the people they serve — or the Spirit they represent — their work starts to lose purity.

I’ve always said: the minute you start believing your own publicity, Spirit quietly steps back.

This work requires humility, not self-worship. You’re a postman for the afterlife — not a prophet.

The Performance Trap

Let’s address the elephant in the séance room.
A lot of what happens on television mediumship shows is heavily edited, selectively filmed, or designed for emotional reaction.

Does that mean there’s no genuine communication? Not necessarily. But it does mean the viewer is not seeing the full, organic process of mediumship — they’re seeing what producers think will sell airtime.

That’s why people come to live shows expecting drama, gasps, and spectacle. And sadly, some mediums give in to that pressure.

They start performing Spirit. They pad messages, dramatise reactions, and fill in blanks to keep the energy high.

I’ve seen mediums who are genuinely gifted — but who lose their connection because they start chasing applause instead of accuracy.

Mediumship can be entertaining — I describe myself as a Psychic Entertainer — but entertainment should never replace authenticity.
There’s a vast difference between performing your gift and pretending for applause.

The Problem with the “Love and Light” Filter

There’s a dangerous trend where some mediums believe they must only deliver positive messages — even if the evidence doesn’t fit.

Not every spirit communication is sweet or sentimental. Some are awkward, blunt, or emotionally raw. Spirit people retain personality — and sometimes they come forward to apologise, challenge, or tell the truth.

When a medium filters everything through “love and light” platitudes, they dilute the evidence and rob the sitter of authenticity.

A real reading is a conversation, not a Hallmark card.

If Spirit shows me something real — a hard truth, a specific memory, or even regret — my duty is to deliver it with compassion, not edit it for comfort.

The “Guided” Excuse

This one will ruffle feathers, but it needs saying.

Many mediums claim they have a Spirit Guide who tells them everything, stage-manages their work, and provides commentary during readings.

Now, some genuinely do experience that kind of partnership. But far too many use “guides” as an excuse for vague or inaccurate information.
When evidence fails, they blame the guide.

I call that spiritual outsourcing.

As an unguided medium, I take full responsibility for my communication. I work directly with the Spirit I’m connecting to — not through a cosmic middleman.
That doesn’t make me superior; it just means I don’t pass accountability to someone invisible.

If something is wrong, I’ll say, “That’s my error, not Spirit’s.”
That’s how trust is built.

The Misuse of Grief

This is where things become serious.

Mediumship attracts the bereaved — people in deep emotional need. That is both sacred and dangerous territory.

Some exploit that vulnerability for profit or validation. They charge extortionate fees, promise guaranteed contact, or suggest the client should keep returning until they “get closure.”

That’s not service — that’s manipulation.

An ethical medium never exploits grief.
They provide comfort, not dependency.
If a medium makes you feel that your healing relies on them, walk away. Real Spirit communication empowers; it never enslaves.

Spiritual Showmanship vs. Spiritual Service

There’s a growing divide between those who see mediumship as an art form and those who see it as a calling.

I’ve built my career in psychic entertainment — and I’m transparent about it. When I do stage shows, I combine psychic experiments, telepathy, and mediumship to explore human potential. But I’m always clear with the audience: this is demonstration, not dogma.

The problem isn’t the entertainment element — it’s deception.
When a medium pretends to be purely spiritual but secretly uses stagecraft, that’s when the line is crossed.

The audience deserves honesty about context.
Spiritualism can coexist with showmanship — but only if truth remains at the centre.

The Industry Is Afraid of Its Own Reflection

The biggest problem isn’t sceptics — it’s silence.

Mediums are often afraid to call out poor practice because they fear being seen as disloyal to “the community.”
But true loyalty is honesty.
If we ignore bad behaviour, we become complicit in it.

Spiritualism shouldn’t be immune to self-critique; it should welcome it.
The Spirit world doesn’t need defending from scrutiny — only from ego, arrogance, and apathy.

The Real Work Is Quiet

The most genuine moments of Spirit communication rarely happen under spotlights.
They happen in private readings, in quiet rooms, where someone weeps softly because a small, perfect detail has just healed something inside them.

That’s mediumship.
That’s what this was always meant to be.

Everything else — the fame, the noise, the viral clips — are just decoration.

Spirit doesn’t need to shout to be heard.

The Future of Mediumship Depends on Integrity

If mediumship is to survive in the 21st century, it must evolve ethically, not theatrically.

We need to stop romanticising the past and start raising the standard.
We need to educate the public about what genuine mediumship is — and what it isn’t.

Spirit deserves better than smoke machines and hashtags.
And the public deserves mediums who value truth over trend.

The Truth About Mediumship – Final Thoughts

Mediumship isn’t broken because of sceptics — it’s wounded because of silence, ego, and fear.
But it can be healed — through honesty, humility, and higher standards.

The Spirit world hasn’t changed; we have.
Spirit still communicates — purely, beautifully, and intelligently.
The question is whether we, as mediums, are still listening or simply performing.

It’s time to choose.

The truth about mediumship is a bitter pill to swallow…

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The Truth About Mediumship

November 2 2025

Colin Fry and the Séance Trumpet Incident

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Colin Fry and the Séance Trumpet Incident – Lessons from a Medium’s Journey by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

When we talk about public mediumship in modern times, few names evoke as much recognition — or as much discussion — as Colin Fry.
For decades, Colin stood as one of Britain’s most prominent spiritual figures, filling theatres, appearing on television, and helping countless people find peace after loss.
But among the admiration and applause lies an event that would follow him for the rest of his life — the séance trumpet incident, a moment that changed both his career and the conversation around physical mediumship forever.

This post looks at that story not as gossip, but as a lesson — one that still resonates for anyone who works within the field of psychic mediumship today.

Who Colin Fry Was

Colin Fry was, at his heart, a communicator. Born in Sussex, he reportedly began showing psychic sensitivity from a young age and dedicated his life to demonstrating spiritual survival. By the 1990s, he was touring internationally, recording television programmes such as 6ixth Sense, and performing in packed venues across the UK and Europe.

He was known for his polished presentation and sincere tone — articulate, respectful, and deeply human. People who saw him live often said the experience was gentle rather than theatrical; that he had a way of making even sceptics feel at ease.

But early in his career, during the height of the physical mediumship revival in Britain, something happened that would define a turning point in both his professional life and his reputation.

The Séance Trumpet Incident

The story dates back to the early 1990s, when Colin — still relatively young and performing under the working name “Lincoln” — took part in a physical mediumship séance held in a darkened room.

The event, organised by a Spiritualist circle, was designed to demonstrate traditional forms of physical phenomena such as object movement, spirit voices, and the levitation of the so-called “trumpet” — a conical metal or cardboard device historically used to amplify spirit sounds.

The atmosphere was, as these sittings often were, deeply charged with anticipation. Participants were seated in near-total darkness; the medium was restrained in a chair to ensure authenticity, and observers waited in silence for evidence of spirit movement.

But at one point during the séance, the lights were unexpectedly turned on — and what the group saw reportedly shocked them.
Colin, who was believed to be secured in his chair, was standing in the centre of the room holding the trumpet himself.

In that moment, decades of faith, expectation, and scepticism collided. For believers, it was confusing; for critics, it was confirmation of their doubts; for Colin, it was the moment that would shadow his reputation for years to come.

Understanding the Context

To understand how such an event could happen, it’s important to remember the environment of physical mediumship during that era.

The late 20th century saw renewed interest in traditional séance phenomena — ectoplasm, levitation, trumpet voices — all practised under controlled darkness. The intention was sincere: to recreate the conditions of early Spiritualist circles and validate the continuity of life.

But darkness also presented risk. Even the smallest lapse of protocol could undo credibility. And when that room flooded with light that night, all sense of mystery turned instantly into suspicion.

Accounts vary about exactly what occurred, but what is agreed is that the event was genuine — and devastating. The community reacted with dismay, and Colin withdrew from public physical séances shortly afterward.

Colin’s Response and Evolution

In the years that followed, Colin Fry reinvented himself.
He openly acknowledged the incident in later interviews, referring to it as a profound learning experience. He stated that it happened early in his development and that, from that moment forward, he decided to focus exclusively on mental mediumship — the form of communication that transmits messages clairvoyantly, clairaudiently, or clairsentiently, without the theatrics of physical phenomena.

That decision proved to be one of integrity.
He went on to have a long and respected career, filling theatres, writing books, and becoming one of Britain’s best-known public mediums. For many years, audiences embraced him again — not for spectacle, but for his compassion, sensitivity, and calm authority on stage.

Lessons for Modern Mediums

The séance trumpet incident isn’t simply a footnote in history; it’s a mirror reflecting the challenges of working with unseen forces under public scrutiny.
It reminds every medium — myself included — that the responsibility of this work goes far beyond performance.

Here are the enduring lessons Colin’s story leaves us with:

Transparency Is Essential

Mediumship thrives on trust. Once trust is broken, even unintentionally, it takes time and humility to rebuild it. Colin’s eventual openness about his mistake helped restore his integrity — and showed that honesty can outlast embarrassment.

Authenticity Over Theatrics

Physical phenomena can be powerful, but the true heart of mediumship is emotional evidence — the communication of love, memory, and identity. Colin’s later work demonstrated that connection doesn’t need props or darkness; it needs sincerity.

Development Requires Humility

Every medium, no matter how experienced, goes through learning phases. Colin’s incident happened in his early career, and he owned it. In a field often surrounded by ego and competition, humility remains the strongest safeguard of authenticity.

Public Perception Shapes the Whole Field

Whenever a prominent medium faces controversy, it ripples across the entire spiritual community. The trumpet incident became a talking point not just about one man, but about mediumship as a whole. That’s why integrity must always come before publicity.

A Balanced Legacy

Colin Fry passed away in 2015 after a long illness, leaving behind both admirers and critics — but above all, a legacy that continues to shape the way modern mediums present their work.

He brought mediumship to mainstream television audiences with professionalism and polish, helping to remove the fear and superstition that had long surrounded the subject.
For thousands who sat in his audiences, he represented comfort and credibility.

And yet, the early scandal that haunted him also gave him depth and realism. It showed that even mediums, like everyone else, are human — capable of error, reflection, and growth.

In that sense, Colin Fry’s journey mirrors the very essence of Spiritualism itself: progression, through experience, toward truth.

Reflections as a Working Medium

When I reflect on Colin’s story as an unguided medium — one who works directly with Spirit rather than through an intermediary guide — I see not scandal, but evolution.

Mediumship, like any human art, requires vulnerability. The power of Spirit isn’t shown in trumpets or flickering lights; it’s shown in the quiet accuracy of a message, the emotion on a sitter’s face, and the peace that follows validation.

Colin’s later years embodied that understanding. He moved beyond the need for dramatic proof and focused on empathy, humility, and the sacred responsibility of communication.

That is the Colin Fry I choose to remember — the teacher who learned the hard way that the truest evidence of Spirit is love, not levitation.

Colin Fry and the Séance Trumpet Incident – Final Thoughts

The séance trumpet incident stands as one of the most discussed episodes in modern mediumship, but its ultimate value lies not in controversy — it lies in what it teaches.

For those of us who serve the public as mediums, it is a reminder that our credibility is our craft, and our integrity is our proof.

Colin Fry’s life demonstrates both sides of the path: how quickly trust can be shaken, and how, with courage and honesty, it can also be restored.

He remains, to this day, a pivotal figure — a man who brought Spirit communication to a new generation, learned from adversity, and showed that truth and humility will always shine brighter than any trumpet in the dark.

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Colin Fry and the Séance Trumpet Incident

November 2 2025

Who Can Come Through in a Mediumship Reading?

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Who Can Come Through in a Mediumship Reading by Kristian von Sponneck – Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

One of the most common questions I’m asked before a reading or show is:

“Can you bring through a specific person for me?”

It’s an entirely natural question. When someone books a medium, their heart is often focused on one person — a partner, parent, sibling, child, or friend. Yet mediumship doesn’t always unfold the way we expect, because communication from Spirit isn’t summoned or demanded; it’s received and allowed.

In this post, I want to explain — from both a Spiritualist and personal perspective — who can come through in a reading, why certain spirits step forward first, and how you can recognise the intelligence behind it.

The Door Is Open to All, But Spirit Chooses Who Steps Through

In my experience, any soul in the Spirit world is capable of communicating. The limitation isn’t on their side — it’s on ours.
Mediumship relies on energy alignment, a blending of vibration between the medium, the sitter, and Spirit. The one whose energy best aligns with that of the medium usually comes through first.

That’s why you might be hoping for your grandmother, but your father’s energy arrives first — not because she doesn’t want to speak, but because in that moment, his frequency links more easily.

Spirit chooses the order, timing, and message. It’s less like dialling a phone number and more like answering a call from whoever’s signal is strongest.

Close Family Are Most Common — But Not Exclusive

Naturally, the spirits who most often come through are those bound to you by deep emotional ties. Love is the magnetic force of the afterlife.
Parents, partners, children, and close friends tend to appear first because the emotional current between you is still vibrant.

However, you may also receive contact from more distant relatives — a great-grandparent you never met, a godparent, or even a neighbour who helped raise you.

Spirit communication isn’t always about the person you miss most; it’s about the soul who can bring the healing you need now.
Sometimes the most unexpected communicator turns out to carry the exact message your heart required.

They Come When the Conditions Are Right

Spirit communication depends on three forms of energy coming into harmony:

Spirit energy – the soul in the next world.

Medium energy – the translator of frequency.

Sitter energy – the receiver, whose openness influences clarity.

If any one of those energies is tired, distracted, or emotionally blocked, the connection may be limited.
That’s why some readings feel effortless and others require patience.

It’s also why the loved one you most wish to hear from sometimes waits until a later sitting — not because of rejection, but because timing, emotion, or your personal healing needs weren’t yet aligned.

Personality Still Shines Through

One of the most reassuring aspects of mediumship is that personality survives death.

A mother who was organised in life still comes through neatly and to the point.
A granddad who told jokes will often communicate through humour.
A quiet person may offer short, gentle impressions rather than long conversations.

Spirits retain their individuality, and their manner of communicating mirrors how they lived.
That’s why some come through with floods of detail while others simply send a feeling of love — neither is “better,” it’s just who they are.

Not Every Loved One Is Ready Right Away

Occasionally a spirit doesn’t appear immediately after passing.
This doesn’t mean they’ve “gone” or are “unable” — it means they’re adjusting to their new state, or the emotional intensity of those left behind makes clear contact difficult.

Just as grief needs time for the living, transition requires gentleness for the departed.
After that settling period, communication tends to flow more easily, and the energy feels calmer, clearer, and more loving.

Guides, Teachers, and Friends

In addition to family, you may sense or hear from spirit guides or helpers — souls not necessarily known to you on earth who assist in communication.
While I work as an unguided medium (meaning I connect directly with the communicating soul rather than through an intermediary guide), many mediums experience these presences as supportive influences that organise or protect the communication space.

You may also encounter souls who were acquaintances, mentors, or even colleagues — anyone with emotional resonance or unfinished words.

Spirit World Logic vs. Human Logic

We often expect our loved ones to queue up politely in the order we’d prefer, but Spirit follows emotional intelligence rather than hierarchy.

You might think, “Why did my grandfather come instead of my mother?”
Spirit might answer, “Because he can say what she can’t.”

Their world works on love and healing, not protocol.
Each communicator steps forward for a reason, even if that reason only becomes clear later.

The Living Also Influence Who Appears

Your emotional state creates the atmosphere Spirit works through.
If you’re nervous, angry, or desperate, your energy tightens. Spirit senses that and may choose a gentle communicator first to calm the environment before others step forward.

Likewise, if you come with open curiosity, you create a higher frequency that allows multiple souls to connect fluidly.
Your intention matters — you don’t “summon,” but you invite through love, patience, and trust.

Age, Passing, and Circumstance Don’t Limit Communication

People sometimes ask, “Can a child come through? What about someone who passed tragically?”
The answer is yes — but the tone of the message reflects healing and peace rather than the trauma of the event.

Spirit never re-creates distress. A young soul will usually communicate through symbols, sensations of innocence, or a sense of parental love.
A person who died suddenly may simply convey calm reassurance: “I’m at peace now.”

Mediumship focuses on survival of consciousness, not re-living pain. The afterlife does not freeze people in tragedy; it frees them from it.

Pets and Non-Human Souls

Though my work focuses on human communication, it’s common for people to sense the continued presence of beloved animals.
Spirit animals often appear through symbols — a sudden memory, a familiar sound, or a sensation near your feet.
Their loyalty is energetic; love, after all, is universal.

When No One Seems to Come

Sometimes a sitting feels quiet. That doesn’t mean Spirit has withdrawn — it often means the message is subtle, or that what you need today is insight rather than communication.

I remind clients: Spirit always hears you, even if they don’t always answer through a medium.
You can still connect personally through thought, memory, and gratitude.

Silence from Spirit is often a sign of peace, not absence.

How to Prepare Yourself

To encourage clear communication:

Come with openness, not expectation.

Avoid demanding a specific person.

Think of your loved ones with love, not grief.

Keep an open mind to whoever steps forward.

Allow time — Spirit knows what you need even when you don’t.

Mediumship works best when it’s a conversation of hearts, not a test of evidence.

The Larger Truth

Ultimately, who comes through in a mediumship reading depends on the divine intelligence of love itself.
Spirits don’t visit randomly; they respond to need. They appear to comfort, to heal, to reassure, or sometimes simply to remind you that you are not alone.

Each communication — even the briefest impression — is a thread in the tapestry of proof that consciousness continues.

As I often say during shows:

“The spirit world doesn’t send who you want — it sends who you need.”

And somehow, every time, it’s exactly right.

Who Can Come Through in a Mediumship Reading – Final Thoughts

Mediumship is not a science of control; it’s a practice of trust.
Any soul can reach us if the moment aligns, but love and intention decide who steps through first.

When you sit for a reading, know that you’re not simply opening a door to the beyond — you’re standing in the center of a bridge built by love, where both worlds meet halfway.

And whoever crosses that bridge first is there for a reason: to remind you that love is eternal, and that the bond between you and those in Spirit has never been broken.

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Who Can Come Through in a Mediumship Reading?