Do You Really Have a Spirit Guide? Clearing Up My Perspective as a Medium Who Doesn’t Work With One

Do you really have a spirit guide? Clearing up my perspective as a medium who doesn’t work with one by Psychic Medium Kristian von Sponneck

I openly state that I don’t work with a spirit guide. People have messaged me saying they were shocked, relieved, reassured, confused — and in many cases, comforted that the idea that a professional medium doesn’t have (or doesn’t use) a spirit guide challenged something they had been taught for years.

So I  want to expand on this topic properly.

Some readers asked, “Does this mean I don’t have one either?”
Others said, “I’ve never felt a guide… and now I feel less alone.”
And a few said, “Maybe I’ve been talking to myself all this time.”

This post is to clear up my standpoint — and hopefully give you permission to trust your own experience rather than chasing something you’re told you must have.

Spirit Guides: A Popular Teaching, But Not a Universal Truth

For decades, spiritual and mediumship circles have taught that everyone has a main guide, usually from a different era or culture, assigned to them for life who provides help, protection or information.

It sounds mystical, powerful and comforting.

But mediumship isn’t a factory.
There is no standard blueprint.

Some people genuinely experience a guide.
Some experience something more symbolic.
Some experience nothing at all.
And many believe they have a guide simply because they were told they should — not because they’ve ever clearly experienced one.

That doesn’t make anyone wrong.
It just means the spiritual experience isn’t identical for everyone.

Many Mediums Think They Have a Guide, But Are Really Hearing Their Internal Dialogue

This part needs saying, even though few will admit it:

Many people mistake their internal voice for a spirit guide.

Internal dialogue can be: comforting, wise, directional, intuitive, insightful, familiar…and still be your own subconscious, not a separate being.

There is nothing wrong with that.
In fact, tuning into your inner wisdom can be incredibly powerful.

I’ll be writing a full post on internal dialogue later, but for now, I just want to introduce the idea that:

You might think your guide is speaking to you — when actually, you’re speaking to yourself in a deeper, more intuitive way.

And that is absolutely valid.

My Position: I Don’t Work With a Guide — But Let’s Be Fair… The Opposite Could Also Be True

I’ve always said that I don’t have a spirit guide.
I don’t feel one.
I don’t see one.
I don’t call on one.
And I don’t pass messages through a middleman.

My mediumship works directly, clearly and naturally without one.

But — and I want to be completely fair here — it’s also possible that I do have a guide and simply don’t realise it.

Some mediums experience guides as a constant presence.
Some mediums hear a name, see an image, or feel a personality.
Some mediums don’t consciously detect their guide at all.

It’s entirely possible a guide helps me without presenting themselves in a way I recognise.

Maybe their influence is subtle.
Maybe they step aside because my connection is direct.
Maybe they simply don’t interfere.
Or maybe my awareness doesn’t label them as a guide — so I assume they aren’t there.

The point is:

Not having evidence of a guide doesn’t automatically mean you don’t have one.
And having a guide-like experience doesn’t automatically mean you do.

Working Without a Guide — And Why It Works For Me

When I connect with Spirit, the communication is direct, unfiltered, immediate, and natural.

I don’t feel the need to insert another presence into the process.

Some mediums prefer the structure of a guide.
Some use it for protection.
Some use it for confidence.
Some use it as a way to organise their connection.

For me, a guide would feel like an unnecessary extra step.
But again — that’s my way of working.
Not the universal way.

Mediumship evolves differently for every person.

So… Do YOU Really Have a Spirit Guide?

Here’s the most honest answer:

You might have one.
You might not.
You might think you have one but are actually hearing your intuition.
Or you might have one and not realise it — just like I might.

What matters is not the label.
What matters is how you connect.

You are not less spiritual if you don’t feel a guide.
You are not “behind” in your development.
You are not lacking something.
You are not blocked.

You are simply experiencing Spirit in your own unique way.

And that is exactly how it should be.

Final Thought: Your Connection Is Yours — Not Tradition’s

Tradition has made spirit guides seem compulsory.
But spirituality isn’t a checklist.
Mediumship isn’t a script.
And the Spirit world doesn’t follow human rules.

Whether you work with a guide, without one, or aren’t sure, your mediumship is still entirely valid.

And I hope this clears up my standpoint — not just for those who asked, but for anyone silently questioning whether they should feel something they don’t.

You don’t have to force it.
You don’t have to pretend it.
You don’t have to conform.

Your connection is enough.
Just as it is.

You may like my last post, click the following to read Ghosts and mediums: understanding the difference between spirit, hauntings, and true mediumship

Do You Really Have a Spirit Guide?