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The dark side of mediumship – jealousy, rivalry, and the spiritual ego by Kristian von Sponneck, Psychic Medium & Psychic Entertainer

Mediumship is supposed to be about love, light, and service — but spend enough time in this world and you’ll soon discover something darker: competition, gossip, insecurity, and envy. 

It’s the side of the spiritual industry few want to talk about, but everyone has witnessed.
And now, thanks to TikTok and the social-media machine, that darkness has a global stage.

Until we start calling it out, it will keep corroding the credibility of our work from the inside.

  The Myth of Universal Harmony

We preach that Spirit is love, that energy is connection, that we’re all here to serve.
Then, as soon as the lights go down, we compete for bookings, followers, and validation.

It’s a strange hypocrisy: mediums who talk about unconditional love but refuse to speak to one another.
Spirituality doesn’t erase ego — sometimes, it hides behind it.

The TikTok Effect – The Rise of Instant Mediums

TikTok has done for mediumship what fast food did for nutrition: made it quick, addictive, and empty.

Scroll for five minutes and you’ll see endless clips of people claiming to channel a celebrity who died yesterday, announcing “Spirit has a message for you,” or performing tears on cue for engagement.

It’s performance, not connection.

These creators chase algorithms, not authenticity. They treat grief like content, filming “live readings” in comments, fishing for validation from strangers who just lost someone.
The result? The public stops trusting anyone calling themselves a medium — genuine or not.

TikTok rewards volume over veracity.
The faster you post, the more you’re seen. But true communication with Spirit is subtle, patient, and sacred. It doesn’t fit into 60-second clips.

The tragedy is that some newcomers genuinely believe this is the standard — that success equals followers.
They confuse popularity with purpose.

Mediumship becomes a performance of empathy, not the practice of it.

The Currency of Recognition

In the old days, recognition came from years of platform work, mentorship, and reputation.
Now, it comes from likes, algorithms, and ticket sales.

The more visible a medium becomes, the more other mediums whisper.
“They’ve changed.”
“They’ve sold out.”
“Spirit wouldn’t want them to be famous.”

But success doesn’t corrupt — ego does.
And ego thrives in both admiration and resentment.

The Spiritual Ego in Disguise

The most dangerous ego isn’t loud; it’s sanctimonious.
It hides behind humility — the false modesty that says, “I don’t do this for attention,” while secretly craving it.

Spiritual ego is when a medium believes they’re more evolved, more “chosen,” or more in tune than others.
It’s subtle, but it poisons everything.
The moment you believe you’re above others, you’ve stopped serving Spirit and started serving yourself.

Jealousy in the Circle

Even in development groups, jealousy lurks.
Someone gets a clearer message, a stronger vision, a louder validation — and suddenly the energy shifts.

It’s ironic: the very people teaching love often can’t stand to see another’s growth.
But comparison kills connection.
Spirit doesn’t reward status; it rewards sincerity.

TikTok’s Theatre of Rivalry

Social media has turned jealousy into public sport.
Mediums record “response videos” attacking one another, arguing over who’s real, who’s fake, who “stole” whose spirit guide.

It’s playground behaviour dressed in spirituality.

Every feud, every snide duet, every comment war chips away at credibility — not just for those involved, but for the entire field.

When you air your insecurities online, you don’t expose the other medium; you expose yourself.
Spirit doesn’t pick sides in comment sections.

Gossip – The Lowest Vibration of All

Nothing destroys spiritual credibility faster than gossip.
Yet psychic circles thrive on it. Who’s real, who’s fake, who was caught out, who’s trending this week.

Every time we engage in gossip, we lower our own vibration.
The Spirit world doesn’t communicate through bitterness.
You can’t be a clear channel for love while indulging in negativity about others.

If we spent half the time developing our craft that we spend discussing each other, the movement would evolve overnight.

The Addiction to Validation

The platform is intoxicating. The applause, the emotion, the gratitude — it feeds something deep in the psyche.
If you’re not careful, that rush becomes an addiction.

When the applause stops, insecurity creeps in.
Some mediums chase that high by exaggerating, by forcing messages, by seeking constant public approval.

That’s not inspiration; it’s dependency.
Real fulfilment comes from the quiet knowledge that you served honestly — even if nobody clapped.

The Sceptic Inside the Medium

Many mediums project their own insecurity outward. They criticise others to mask their own self-doubt.
When you’re grounded, you don’t need to discredit anyone.

I’ve learned that the more secure a medium is in their work, the less interested they are in tearing down others.
The loudest critic in the room is often the most frightened one.

How to Protect Your Energy from Industry Negativity

Stay in your lane. Focus on your development, not someone else’s.

Don’t engage online arguments. They drain power and prove nothing.

Curate your feed. Unfollow toxicity. Energy is contagious, even digitally.

Surround yourself with integrity. Choose peers who uplift, not compete.

Keep private life private. Spirit work thrives in stillness, not spectacle.

Remember your why. Every time ego knocks, return to service.

Negativity can’t touch someone anchored in purpose.

The Cure Is Collaboration

The spiritual field doesn’t need more competition — it needs collaboration.
Imagine mediums supporting each other, sharing platforms, cross-promoting, mentoring, and exchanging evidence standards.

When one medium succeeds with integrity, it raises the vibration of everyone.
The public starts to trust the profession again — and that benefits all of us.

Spirit doesn’t divide; humans do. The sooner we remember that, the sooner we can heal the industry from within.

The Dark Side of Mediumship – Final Thoughts

Every medium faces a choice:
Feed the ego, or feed the energy.
One isolates; the other elevates.

We talk about the light, but the real light work begins in the shadows — confronting our own jealousy, fear, and pride.
It’s not easy, but it’s necessary.

TikTok has turned the sacred into a sideshow. It’s our responsibility to bring depth back into what has become disposable.
If you’re serious about Spirit, step back from the scroll, breathe, and reconnect to why you began.

Because if we can’t live the love we claim to channel, what right do we have to speak for Spirit at all?

The dark side of mediumship isn’t proof that it’s false.
It’s proof that we’re human — and that enlightenment isn’t about escaping our flaws, but mastering them.

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